Thinking of you always  / Bren ONeal (Friend)
Hey Mary I just lit a candle for Jamie. Not a day goes by that you & Jamie are not in my thoughts & prayers. I love & admire you Mary thank you for all the work you do daily in helping people in treatment. It takes a mighty special person in this world to do your job you are the cream of the crop. All my love Bren xxoo Close

Sending Love & Prayers  / Bren O'Neal (Friend)

Mary & Jamie, You both changed my life forever & for that reason I'm truly thankful for the ultimate sacrifice. Without a doubt I know Jamie & Wendy brought us together as mothers. Mother to mother we understand each others heartache, the loss we have suffered can feel overwhelming at times. It will never feel natural to bury our children first.  Our lives have been forever changed, it has brought us to roads we never wanted to travel. We have found a new purpose in our lives unfortunately, one that is met with great controversary. Trying to save lives from a monster named methadone that seeks to devour lives of innocent victims. I'm honored to stand by your side Mary to bring about awareness & change so that others may not have to learn  to live with our pain & sorrow. All My Love, Bren

Wendy McAdams

1-26-73 - 4-5-06

Methadone Death

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MERRY CHRISTMAS  / Bren O'Neal (Child Of God )

MAY THE LORD MAKE HIS PRESENCE KNOWN,

MAY THE MUSIC OF HIS HEART BRING SWEET COMFORT,

AND MAY HIS ARMS WRAP ALL AROUND YOU,

UNTIL YOU ARE EMBRACED IN HIS COMPASSIONATE LOVE.

MERRY CHRISTMAS

LOVE, BREN

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Such a handsome young man.  / Tonja Brown
Like my son Timmy, both handsome young men taken by methadone.

How I pray that this drug had never been invented.


One day at a time.

Sincerely,

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THINKING OF YOU  / BREN O'NEAL (FRIEND)

HE SHALL COVER YOU WITH HIS FEATHERS,

AND UNDER HIS WINGS YOU SHALL TAKE REFUGE.

                                                         PSALM 91:4

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You live in each of our hearts  / Steve Ratliff (Friend of Mary )
I got clean on Dec 10, 2007. Had it not been for you Mother's valiant fight in your name, I might have fallen, and others too. You are still with us because by living on through your mother, she has reached out to those addicted, and shared you with us. Now you live on in our hearts. God Bless You Mary.  Jamie we never met, but I know you through your mother and you are missed. Close

For a life taken too young  / Mike Vukmanovic (none)
I did not know you personally but I have known many like you.  When I was your age and as were my friends and associates, we did things which were foolish and we were bulletproof.

I walk this world alone now wondering how was I spared when so many of 'my people' were not.

I feel betrayed, angered, alone and ashamed.  Then I also feel blessed because maybe I was spared so that I may be here today sharing my experiences with someone who may need to hear that they are not alone anymore.

Whatever the reasons are, your life and flame were extinguished way too early. 

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The Empty Chair, by Baydon S.  / Mary Haynes (Mother)

This is a letter I recently received in the mail after I was 
contacted by phone by this guy named Baydon whom 
I never met but this was the best Christmas present that 
I could have wished for. Baydon, if you ever see this, I 
want you to know that this has meant the world to me 
and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for not 
forgetting my boy. Here is the letter I received on 12/15/07. 
Love, Mary (Jamie's Mom)

Mary, Jamie chaired the first NA meeting I went to after rehab. He treated me so well that night that he was a big part of why I kept coming back. His passing hit me hard and had a profound effect on my recovery. I wrote these lyrics in memory of Jamie. Thanks to Jamie, I just picked up my one year key tag. I want you to have it. This song has touched alot of people in recovery, not just here in Concord either, all across the US, Virgin Islands and Scotland. I just wanted you to know that his life counted for something and continues to help other sick and suffering addicts. I hope you find some comfort in knowing that. Baydon

Lyrics
The Empty Chair...by Baydon
in grateful memory of Jamie P.

1. There's an empty chair in the room tonight.
Im listening to my home group share why he's not here tonight.
He was a runaway train on a broken track.
At the end of the line was a heart attack.
We're all dressed in black.
That train ain't coming back
to his empty chair in the room tonight.

2. There's an empty chair in the room tonight.
I'm remembering what he shared for me when it was my first night.
He could tell that I was in alot of pain.
He told me that I never had to use again...
He didn't die in vain,
he helps flag down trains
from his empty chair in the room tonight.

(Instrumental)

There's an empty chair in the room tonight.
I listen while we share for the newcomers here tonight.
They alread know it won't get better out there.
Maybe I could tell them "about the empty chair".
How trains that don't stop here
run til they crash somewhere.
Leaving empty chairs in the rooms tonight.

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Davi's first Easter  / Don Haynes (Step-dad)
Jamie, The Easter weekend has come and gone and we missed you. We had your baby Fri. & Sat. We got him his first Easter basket.Wish you could been here with us.Love, Don Close

Always Remember  / Eileen Pacheco (Grandmother)
Jamie, I love you and miss you so very much and I know how much you loved me.  I love your baby, Davi.  He is a minature you.  Remember you'll always be my baby-man, no matter what.
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I Can't Drive 55...  / Tina Porter (Cousin)
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I miss you  / Don Haynes (Step-father)
Jamie, I miss you a lot. I miss seeing your mischievious little grin,you telling me you love me,and especially your bear hugs.I even miss you using my tools and not putting them back.By the way it wasn't just you because I still can't find anything when I need it.You left behind a beautiful son that you never got to see.We're loving him for you. He will know that his father would have adored him.He will know that his father had a kind generous spirit and a loving heart.Your spirit lives on in him.We'll try to be the best grandparents we can be. Close

Jamie was loved greatly!  / Lane Bost (Friend of family )

I have known Jamie and Don and Mary for quite a few years now.
I know how much Don and Mary loved him and wanted the very best for Jamie and I am sure that Jamie knew this. I am so thankful that they  have been given a chance to love his child now, I pray that Jamie can see this child from Heaven just as I pray that my brother Jon can see his children.

Love Lane

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May love fill your life  / Tricia Hurley (friend)
Jamie,

May you watch over your family and loved ones and know that you will always be in their hearts.  May peace have found you and the light surround you.
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My Special Son  / Mary Haynes (Mom)
This is a poem that I had written Jamie when he was about 14 years old.

I was young when I gave birth to you, I really didn't know quite what to do.

I made mistakes, I learned from them, but from the beginning you were my gem.

I loved you with all I had, but my addiction was strong, it really turned bad.

You really didnt have a good start in life, sometimes if felt like someone was turning a knife.

There were stresses and struggles you shouldn't have seen, I should have been there for you to have a place to lean.

When you were seven, I went for help. And when the clouds lifted and I saw what I had become, I knew in my heart I was ready for this one.

I was single and it was hard, sometimes life caught me off guard.

But I was determined we could get through this together, somehow, someway, we could get through the bad weather.

We have been through the storms, we have been through the rough seas, we have come a long way, we were given the keys.

From the time I got clean, I wanted to be a good mother, we didn't have much, but we had each other.

I have loved you. I have cried for you, I have prayed for you and I have struggled with you.

At times its been so painful, I thought my heart would break, but together we tried and faith told me we would make it.

I look at you and see myself, some is good and some is bad, but through the years, your all I had.

We stuck together through thick and thin, my love for you is deep within. 

Now here we are, your almost grown, somewhere along the way, the seed has been sown.

You are quite a young man with a heart of gold,  you are funny, you are sweet, sometimes your real bold.

You are handsome, you are smart, you have come a long way, even without a good start.

So let me say my son, you are so special to me, you are my heart and soul, you are everything to me.

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Jamie had a big heart  / Pat Smith (freind)

I have  been cutting Jamie's hair since he was a little twirp. He always had beautiful blue eyes an a big smile to share. Some of the crazy designs he had me cut into his  scalp   were really funny........He loved animals an had a very big heart. I will always love him an miss him so much....

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